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Online dating chronic illness

What you see online isn't always real life." Chan said she's had to adapt to a "new normal" which involves constant pain, adding: "y joints and muscles all over my body ache almost everyday, I get migraines and I'm constantly exhausted due to chronic fatigue.

"My time away has let me reflect on things and I want to be real and authentic with everything I do," she wrote on her blog.In the graphic image below, if you live with a disease that significantly impacts your average day, then you and I would be the teal color. See what a small area the average friend may see of your life?They see the tiny bit of you when the illness isn't at its worst.Even though a friend may know you, it may just be that sliver of you that is peeking out from behind the disease.And yet, should our illness be a part of all of our relationships?The 20-year-old from Dublin said she was inspired to be more transparent about the non-Instagrammable moments of her life amid the backlash in the Irish blogging community about over-editing or manipulating images on their feed.

Chan took a break from updating her blog, both to focus on improving her health, self doubt and "pure laziness" and is back with a bang - reflecting on the importance of being honest with the members of a community you helped build.

The conversations that occur in blog comments or other platforms naturally take on an "us" vs. We who are ill consider ourselves part of a exclusive club -- one we never wished to join.

And it is difficult to believe that one who is healthy could really understand the reality of our life.

For example, if it is all in our head, then why would they need to search for the right words when we cancel our plans for the third time? We have just become a society that looks the other way, rarely taking time to understand why a person hesitates before standing or who struggles to open the door at the store.

Sure, they want to fix it, to help us feel better, to change our outlook. I notice many diseases now, as I have become more familiar with what "invisible symptoms" look like.

And they see an even smaller part of you and the the illness when it flaring up.