History of dating violence
For the purpose of the campaign, we refer to these individuals as “bystanders.”Bystanders are three times more likely to intervene after seeing a bystander campaign.The Center For Family Safety and Healing (TCFSH) created “Where’s The Line?
However, I don’t want to be dragged into someone else’s drama. What happens in someone’s home is none of my business.All calls, texts and instant messages are anonymous and confidential.The caller is greeted and asked how they could be helped.Abuse occurs in all types of relationships and among people with varying backgrounds of age, race, religion, financial status, sexual orientation and education.Unexplained injuries, such as bruises Extreme behaviors, such as excessive crying, truancy or running away Poor hygiene and unsuitable clothing Excessive fear of parent(s), caregiver(s) or going home Depression or excessive crying Poor peer relationships or inability to relate to children of the same age Sudden change in behavior Constant hunger, tiredness or lack of energy Attention-seeking behaviors Giving up things that are important Isolation from friends Changes in appearance, weight, grades or behavior Unexplainable injuries Fear of making partner angry Preoccupied with pleasing partner Apologizes for partner’s behavior Excuses to questions about the relationship Physical injuries such as broken bones or unexplained bruising Claims of being “clumsy” or “accident prone” Frequent absenteeism or tardiness Isolation Harassing phone calls, text messages, emails or notes on cars Comments about stress at home Talking about the spouse or partner’s anger or temper Leaving work early or coming in late Making mistakes on the job Unexplained signs of injury Untreated physical problems such as bed sores Behavior from the elder that mimics dementia such as rocking, sucking or mumbling to oneself Broken bones, sprains or dislocations Caregiver’s refusal to allow you to see the elder alone Torn, stained or bloody underclothing Unusual weight loss, malnutrition or dehydration Unsanitary living conditions such as dirt, bugs, soiled bedding and clothes If an individual believes that they are witnessing an act of family violence and they have questions, they are encouraged to call, text or send an instant message for answers and advice that can help.Because of this, a community response is necessary.
Below are three common concerns that prevent bystanders from responding and several ways the campaign addresses those concerns.
It is important for parent(s) to know whom your teens are dating and to talk with them about healthy relationships.
Keep in mind that some teens may mistake attention as expressions of love when in fact they are warning signs of control.
Become knowledgeable about the impact you can make!
Your call, text or message can really make a difference.
You should be aware that calls, texts and instant messages are confidential sources of support. Become aware and familiar with the signs of family violence.