Constant rejection dating
I’m not obligated to talk to someone.” – Olivia, late-twenties.
I was talking to a group of my girlfriends the other day and the topic of dating came up. No, neither had entered into a relationship and was now deleting their apps because their exclusive relationship required it, but rather, they were deleting their apps because they were talking to too many men, going on too many uneventful first dates, sending out too many messages only to receive radio silence, and getting too many “Sups” from uninspired suitors.Are dating apps actually helping people date, or is it just a way to casually scroll through images of strangers while wasting a couple hours of your day?You’re tired of the grind of swiping, but you could also very well be tired of the endless stream of rejection.And I really have no time for mindless small talk and flaky people.I lowkey really hate any kind of messaging, whether it’s texting or chatting on whatever app.” – Quyen, early twenties. Which gets repetitive, and then gets boring.” – Matt, late twenties.Conversations often ended as soon as I recommended meeting for a drink or coffee.” – Shane, late twenties.
According to a 2016 study by the Pew Research Center, 1/3 of singles on a dating app have not actually gone on any dates from the app.
The reason for deleting their dating apps all seemed to boil down to either time consuming, frustrating, or boring. I’ve downloaded and deleted that app maybe six times in the last 12 months.
I usually delete Tinder because I get no messages or matches.
” – Jess, late-twenties* “The overall feeling is that I was investing a lot of time and energy without any results (good or bad).
Chat conversations fizzled quickly if they began at all.
They are tired of the emailing and the men disappearing.