Dating very intelligent men
Intelligent women, it appears, are either unwilling to date and marry outside of their IQ cohort or are unable to do so.This has real implications for both women and men on the left hand side of the curve.
In most of the western world, sex-ratios run about even.Less intelligent women have more opportunities to marry because of their ability to attract higher IQ men and the willingness of both sexes to allow for this intelligence gap in relationships.Less intelligent men have less opportunities to marry, either because intelligent women are unwilling to “marry down” or because the men don’t want to “marry up.” So the real question we are addressing is: why does this discrepancy exist?This is evidence that what men and women look for in a mate diverges.Women apparently value intelligence in a mate—or perhaps the socio-economic rewards for intelligence—more than men do.Now Nicole Lapin, my colleague here at CNBC, has tried to explain why smart women want to date smart men. The Gloss wanted to know why smart men were dating less intelligent women, while Lapin wrote about why smart women date smart men.
There’s obviously a missing category here: men on the left hand side of the intelligence bell-curve.
They get turned on by wit, intelligence, and a quick mind, and they’d rather listen to you flex your verbal dexterity than watch you flex your quads at the gym.
When asked about the rise of sapiosexuality in an interview, Jill P. D., a clinical psychologist, argued that words like “sapiosexual” can give “nuance to a personality and help people feel less overwhelmed by the dating world so they can specifically focus on what they truly want from a partner.”So, do you think you might have some sapiosexual tendencies?
Why doesn’t this work the other way around—discounting intelligent men for their own “call option” and therefore benefiting less intelligent men?
The answer must either be that less intelligent men are unwilling to date more intelligent women or more intelligent women are unwilling to date less intelligent men. Whatever the answer is, it is creating an unmet arbitrage opportunity—an overabundance of intelligent, single women and an over-abundance of less intelligent, single men.
The economic organization of our society—which increasing rewards intelligence—is a significant factor.