Tall girl dating short guy
But one day my mom decided to cut it very short because she found it too difficult to wash, comb and style. I didn’t know how relaxers worked, so I went to this afro hair salon. But I always end up being in a hurry to go back to my curls, and right after I washed my hair, seeing my curls living again in the mirror gives me the feeling I’m back to my true self.
So I stopped going to the hair salon and started relaxing my roots myself. ” I will say that I understand when girls with curly/kinky/nappy hair relax it. So no, I’m not the naturalista-power-dictator kind of girl, no. She’s 6’3″ so we shared a lot of the tall girls problems and learned to laugh about it together. I also got a comment on my Pinterest profile that made me realize some people might think that because I draw all these comics about being tall and curly, I hate being one or the other, or both. In my case, I simply have no choice, so I try to enjoy myself as much as possible. And for some other stuff too ;) I’ve received a few messages asking me if I keep my hair natural or not, if I have relaxed my hair before, and if I’m against relaxing. So I went from this : To this : Please notice the smile in the before pic, and the “WTF” look on my face in the second one. And so from there on kids started to make fun of me because I looked like a poodle, a sheep, a boy, the Jacksons 5… I grew up thinking I had the worst hair in the world and didn’t know what to do with it besides buns or ponytails. Then I spent a few years straightening my hair every week, fighting against the rain, the snow, the wind… My hair is veeeery thick and strong and I think it’s the only reason I’m not bald today. I also tend to find that a curly girl is always prettier when she wears her hair curly. But if I see the tiniest shadow of a doubt in her attitude, the kind of “I’d like to go natural but I’m afraid of what other people may think” I’ll definitely encourage her to stop putting dangerous chemicals on her head and to walk the path to learning to love herself in spite of others’ opinion. Still I fight with it all the time, and that’s why I find it funny to draw some of these experiences because I know – I hope hahaha – I’m not the only one having to deal with all of this. I went to the same school from age 6 to age 16, and during all the time I’ve spent there, the same kids who made fun of me because of my poodle haircut made fun of me because of my height. A little girl screaming for two hours when you’re trying to detangle her hair can get really nerve-racking – I guess. I’ll never know whether the hairdresser didn’t like me or if she had missed a class in hairdressing school, but she relaxed my hair from the roots to the ends everytime I went there, which means every two months for 2 years. And to have the courage and the pride to BE who you are, under everybody else’s eyes, THAT’S magical. If a girl relaxes her hair, I will respect her choice. I must admit I didn’t really see the connection between kinks being in or not and the fact that curly/kinky hair is very difficult to manage and sometimes complicated to deal with.
In other words : that I should stop complaining about it.
I think I would have relaxed my hair all my life if, when going to college, I hadn’t found myself tired of focusing on my hair instead of on my studies. And like any curly girl, years later, I’m still learning and trying stuff. Sometimes the hair will cooperate, sometimes it won’t. So although I still – and will always – get angry a lot at it, I now respect my hair for what it is : a part of me. Lastly, the fact of being tall AND curly, let me tell yall, that’s something you better accept and love because otherwise, your life can be a hell of a nightmare.
I remember one day looking at myself in the mirror, my roots being 2 inches long. The thing is, growing up, we all learn things about life, and the path I chose brought me closer to nature. You simply CANNOT HIDE no matter what you do, no matter where you go, no matter how hard you try. So yeah, some days you just feel like you could have used a little bit of invisibility but in the end, all that matters is to feel great about yourself at least 99% of the time.
Some people would rather die than being one or the other. I have created this blog for these days when, if there was a vaccine against inches or curls, I would run to get an injection.
Anyhow, one day I eventually said that to a girlfriend – didn’t think of mentioning it before, I didn’t even know there was a problem. She couldn’t care less about what people think or say. And to walk that path, you have to learn to love or at least accept every single thing about yourself. I can tell you it’s very difficult to love something about yourself when everybody has been telling you you look ridiculous for over 10 years. I did model for 3 years or so, and it did help me accepting my height.
But I have a few Swedish girlfriends and they all have opinions of their fellow male counterparts. Swedish guys have done a good job of losing their balls over the years, part thanks to feminism, part thanks to super tight jeans that served as self castrating devices.