About dating men
Once he has started calling you his girlfriend, babe, woman, or even his other half, he won’t stop.He has laid all his cards on the table without even realising it.
In my previous post and in my book, Sensation: The New Science of Physical Intelligence, I showed how the color red influences the way men perceive women.While our male counterparts can confuse the heck out of us, sometimes they can be the best when it comes to dishing out dating advice. Don’t let a man become the center of your universe.Hopefully the following will clear up a little confusion — thank you to the men out there for the candid tips. If you make a man your whole life, he’s going to lose interest because he will most likely feel smothered!If you want to stay in control of the date and keep him interested then take it easy and don’t overindulge.If your date becomes your boyfriend then there will be plenty of opportunities for both of you to let your hair down.Forget Facebook – If you want to let your friends know how much you loved that latte on the way to work this morning, or share a photo of the most adorable kitten playing a guitar that’s well and good.
But do you really want a guy you just met to see all those old photos you’ve been tagged in?
Remember, he fell in love with the dynamic “you” who has her own interests and passions, who wanted to make him a part of your life, not the whole darn thing.
Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of “interdependence.” Interdependence requires that you’re both independent and dependent; that means you create a sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends. While you might think it is cute to have three glasses of wine at dinner, he does not. If you need to loosen up before a date, watch a comedy right before you leave or take a walk. One guy told us that he went on a first date and his date wouldn’t order any food because she wasn’t “hungry.” But then every time he cut a piece of steak on his plate, she reached over and ate it!
Don’t lose the things that are most important to you, and keep doing what you were doing before you started dating him: your Sunday morning yoga class, a yearly vacation with your college roommates, etc. Best to leave your glass half full and your plate empty(ish). Some men ARE afraid of commitment (so they might need a little more time than you to decide if you’re the one).
Even if a guy is relationship ready, if you bring up on date three that you’re ready for a relationship he’ll likely question whether you really want to be in a relationship with HIM or if you’re ready for a relationship with anyone.
But a guy will most likely be a little scared if you knock back a few shots before dinner.