The nonreligious guide to dating
Here’s whathe had to say: I have recently been asked to write a section for this blog on the topic of dating non-Christians.
There are many things that go into being equally yoked.As a young Christian girl, you should focus on Christ; focus on His call on your life to follow Him. You need to be content with serving and obeying Christ. As you seek the Lord and focus on Him, if you are to be married, the Lord will put the perfect man for you in your path.Seek to understand what that means for each one of you. You must not seek to find your fulfillment in a man. You should be able to see him in several different roles and know that you would be best yoked with that one man while on this earth.I told my youth pastor about her because she wasn’t in the youth group.I tried to convince him (and myself) that it would be good for me to date her so that she might come to youth group and become a Christian. A few years before this, my youth minister gave our youth group a lesson we called “the triangle talk.” This talk consisted of a triangle drawn out, and the guy on the left base of the triangle and the girl on the right base.(I actually fell for this one myself as a high school and college-aged woman.) But since I now understand how important it is that we understand God’s truth on this subject, I decided to recruit a friend of mine to be a voice of reason. He just happens to be a handsome, funny college student who is currently serving as the youth ministry intern at my church. How do we convince them that they should only date Christians?
I asked him to read the parts of this blog where young women were talking about dating non-Christians. ” I think that Brice’s insights on this topic are wise and thought-provoking, and they may just be exactly what you need to hear as you search for truth in this area of your lives.
Our relationship ended after she wrote me a letter telling me she thought I was the one for her, and I told her I wasn’t. Our focus even as good Christian kids was on each other and not on God and how we were to be obedient to Him in His service. The girl I dated for 15 months was a great girl and a strong Christian, but we were not equally yoked.
I had been called into ministry a year and a half earlier, and I knew that she would not give me the support I would need in ministry. The bottom line from that story is DO NOT WASTE your time, emotions, money, and most of all your heart on someone who is not a Christian. She completely withdrew from me, which really hurt. It seemed like the Lord was restoring our relationship. I don’t remember consulting the Lord on that decision either. She had a completely different way she wanted to live her life than I did when it came to serving the Lord.
If they are not down with respecting you for taking this season in your life to grow more as a woman, then you need to pray for them that they may understand your heart and that you are letting yourself be prepared for your future husband.
When you are not equally yoked to a believer of a very close maturity level in your relationship with Christ and when you don’t have a very similar philosophy on how to live your life, then you should not enter into a relationship with that person.
I am now 22 years old, and I have had five different girlfriends over the years and had crushes on many others.